For WHAT do you PRAISE your children ?

In continuation with our previous post, HOW OFTEN DO YOU PRAISE YOUR CHILDREN, let's look more deeper on this topic, such as,  for what all different reasons you PRAISE your KIDS. You may be wondering , its obvious that we do PRAISE our kids, when they come first in class, when they hit that sixer, or when they bring home a medal or a cup, or when they achieve something unique in extracurricular activities or when they perform best on stage or when your whole family praises them or when their Teacher praises them..

But, don’t you think there are more reasons to PRAISE them? Don't you think kids need constant assurance and applause? Don't you remember how excited and motivated they were when you praised your little infant , on his/her first steps or first words? Don't you think that they need your approval when no one recognises their effort or hardworking nature? Don't you think children perform better only when PARENTS supports them emotionally ? Don’t you think your ONE  word of APPRECIATION is worth MILLIONS to your KIDS? 

When was the last time you’ve  PRAISED your kid for NO REASON? Have you ever CLAPPED for your growing kids KIND DEEDS? Have you ever APPRECIATED how well your child manages her TASKS? Have you ever said BEAUTIFUL to your little daughter often ? Have you ever COMPLIMENTED about you son's hairstlye ? Have you ever CONGRATULATED you child for just PARTICIPATING ? Have you CELEBRATED his/her overcoming through TOUGH TIMES? Have you MAGNIFIED their softskills like, how KIND they are, how OBEDIENT they are, how TRUTHFUL they are, how HARDWORKING they are or how ACTIVE they are or how HELPFUL they are ? Have you THANKED them for simple tasks they’ve done for you? Have you ever GLORIFIED  their daily growth and minor achievements ? 

The importance of this whole write up on the importance of PRAISE and for what you PRAISE your kids melts down to building up their EMOTIONAL STRENGTH, when they grow into ADULTS. What happens when you constantly PRAISE your kids only for their big and higher achievements, a kind LOW-SELF-ESTEEM develops in them, which is surprising, as you think as a  PARENT you are constantly pushing your children to work harder and harder. Though they may achieve success on this pattern of upbringing , they may be undergoing alot of APPROVAL DIFFICULTIES in their mind. They will be constantly hustling with a deep sense of DISSATISFACTION and awaiting for applause from everyone around them. As they are not taught that being kind, being happy, being regular, being truthful, being lovable, being helpful are all  worth of appreciation!! 

They are only taught that material achievements are worth of PRAISE , thus ultimately they keep struggling and looking out for appreciation from all around. This may even lead to making them fall for wrong people, who may not be right for them, but just with the fact of the kind of superficial PRAISES they receive from a person  in the beginning make them feel that, HE/SHE is the ONE for them and lives a life constantly trying to IMPRESS them, all because they were devoid of APPRECIATION from their PARENTS during their CHILDHOOD. I guess we all, as PARENTS do not want our kids to compromise in their life, right? SO, from now onwards, let's keep praising them for simple simple things and let's keep appreciating them and make them CONFIDENT AND SELF-SUFFICIENT INDIVIDUALS.

How often do you PRAISE your children?

Parenting is the most toughest job in the world.  How much ever we be careful, we tend to go wrong somewhere or the other. Mild mistakes are ok, but extreme level of parenting will leave a huge dent in the lives of your children. May be you are not doing it out of intention, it may be due to your own parenting , or due to societal pressures or due to fears from what you've personally encountered in life or even due to your unfulfilled desires. Whatever may be the reason, its important for you to unlearn or resolve certain extreme behaviours of yours in order to be a good parent. No one is perfect, but try to be conscious and observe any extreme patterns in your parenting behaviour. 

On that elaborative intro for my today's topic, let's address ONE common issue of parenting that may help to nuture our kids in a better way EMOTIONALLY AND MENTALLY. We all love receiving compliments, so do our kids. It's important for us , as parents to frequently PRAISE our children. I agree, we do constantly applaude to our little growing infant and toddler. But then slowly the number of praises tends to reduce , with more of commends and teachings taking over. I understand we gotta teach our little prince or princesses what to do and what not to do, but lets add alot of EMPATHY, CHEERFULNESS, loads of APPLAUDES, bundles of PRAISES all along while we tend to bring them up into responsible citizens. 

Just imagine how happy you feel when someone PRAISES you. As adults if we feel so overjoyed with compliments from people we dont even know properly , imagine the amount of happiness and joy our kids will have everytime you PRAISE them. Just imagine the amount of CONFIDENCE they'll grow up with when they are assured that their PARENTS are always happy for them. Just imagine how EXCITED will they be to try out new things and show them to you everytime. Kids world is really small in the beginning , before they grow up and enter into the vast world. and in thier small world PARENTS are the KING &  QUEEN and the rest are jus OBSERVERS. So, they tend to LEARN, SEEK, ASK, QUESTION, RECEIVE, GAIN, LOSE, BE HAPPY, BE SAD, FEEL JOYFUL, STAY CLAM, FEEL ANXIOUS, FEEL INSECURE, STAY CONFIDENT , SUFFER WITH LOW SELF-ESTEEM, all because of PARENTS or the ENVIRONMENT in which they GROW UP. Few kids may be smart enough to overcome any situations tactfully and convert them into a fuel for their growth.  But a majority of CHILDREN are just living with such feelings all through their life and passing on such emotions into their RELATIONSHIPS, and onto their KIDS. 

Being a PARENT I understand it is important not to over PAMPER kids, but atleast lets pamper them daily for something or the other, while taking care of teaching them the  good and bad, and the values of life simultaneously . Let's give them the assurance that mamma and pappa loves you and will have your back even if you fail for watsoever reason , but if it is becoming a pattern of negligence then you gotta watch out. Let's give them confidence to express what is happening in their life, be it at school, or home. Let's give them a hope that we have their back even if they are rejected from a LOVER who may not be worth for them. Let's keep our doors of LOVE open when they need our LOVE the most. Lets BE THEIR CONSTANT CHEERLEADER, even if they FALL OR FAIL AT TIMES, but make sure you pump them up to WIN AGAIN,