For WHAT do you PRAISE your children ?

In continuation with our previous post, HOW OFTEN DO YOU PRAISE YOUR CHILDREN, let's look more deeper on this topic, such as,  for what all different reasons you PRAISE your KIDS. You may be wondering , its obvious that we do PRAISE our kids, when they come first in class, when they hit that sixer, or when they bring home a medal or a cup, or when they achieve something unique in extracurricular activities or when they perform best on stage or when your whole family praises them or when their Teacher praises them..

But, don’t you think there are more reasons to PRAISE them? Don't you think kids need constant assurance and applause? Don't you remember how excited and motivated they were when you praised your little infant , on his/her first steps or first words? Don't you think that they need your approval when no one recognises their effort or hardworking nature? Don't you think children perform better only when PARENTS supports them emotionally ? Don’t you think your ONE  word of APPRECIATION is worth MILLIONS to your KIDS? 

When was the last time you’ve  PRAISED your kid for NO REASON? Have you ever CLAPPED for your growing kids KIND DEEDS? Have you ever APPRECIATED how well your child manages her TASKS? Have you ever said BEAUTIFUL to your little daughter often ? Have you ever COMPLIMENTED about you son's hairstlye ? Have you ever CONGRATULATED you child for just PARTICIPATING ? Have you CELEBRATED his/her overcoming through TOUGH TIMES? Have you MAGNIFIED their softskills like, how KIND they are, how OBEDIENT they are, how TRUTHFUL they are, how HARDWORKING they are or how ACTIVE they are or how HELPFUL they are ? Have you THANKED them for simple tasks they’ve done for you? Have you ever GLORIFIED  their daily growth and minor achievements ? 

The importance of this whole write up on the importance of PRAISE and for what you PRAISE your kids melts down to building up their EMOTIONAL STRENGTH, when they grow into ADULTS. What happens when you constantly PRAISE your kids only for their big and higher achievements, a kind LOW-SELF-ESTEEM develops in them, which is surprising, as you think as a  PARENT you are constantly pushing your children to work harder and harder. Though they may achieve success on this pattern of upbringing , they may be undergoing alot of APPROVAL DIFFICULTIES in their mind. They will be constantly hustling with a deep sense of DISSATISFACTION and awaiting for applause from everyone around them. As they are not taught that being kind, being happy, being regular, being truthful, being lovable, being helpful are all  worth of appreciation!! 

They are only taught that material achievements are worth of PRAISE , thus ultimately they keep struggling and looking out for appreciation from all around. This may even lead to making them fall for wrong people, who may not be right for them, but just with the fact of the kind of superficial PRAISES they receive from a person  in the beginning make them feel that, HE/SHE is the ONE for them and lives a life constantly trying to IMPRESS them, all because they were devoid of APPRECIATION from their PARENTS during their CHILDHOOD. I guess we all, as PARENTS do not want our kids to compromise in their life, right? SO, from now onwards, let's keep praising them for simple simple things and let's keep appreciating them and make them CONFIDENT AND SELF-SUFFICIENT INDIVIDUALS.