You should learn to LOVE yourself, before you fall for anyone. Appreciate your SCARS, FLAWS, WEAKNESS, VULNERABILITIES, FAILURES AND GUILT WITH EMBRACE. When you cant accept yourself, how do you think someone else will accept you and constantly be there to cover up your mistakes or gaps?? Don't you think thats alot of work, as the opposite person will have their own set of issues, which they might be looking for covering up with YOU. Now this becomes a constant work rather than living LIFE as a whole.
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Parents play a major role here. Its important to ingrain self-love and confidence since childhood. Help your child to understand that they are more capable and more than sufficient as a whole. Don't give false ideas that a spouse or partner one day will come and complete them, which is total nonsense. Every person as a whole is more than enough and capable enough to create wonders.
When we totally learn to focus on ourselves, work on ourselves, learn to forgive ourselves, appreciate ourselves, feel beautiful from within and outside, be grateful for our life and take an oath to not let our mind , body , soul NOT TO BE HUMILIATED OR HURT OR JUDGED OR TAKEN INTO CONTROL by anything, or anyone, thats when we feel HAPPY, CONTENT, REAL AND READY FOR LOVE. Now when you feel this way , loving another person will actually make a lot of sense. You relationship will be the most beautiful and happy one, as your happiness or sadness is not completely dependent on the other, rather those emotions can only be shared which is the most beautiful thing of being in LOVE.
Self-love is alot of work, and it takes many days or months or years depending on how pathetic you are on this. We LOVE our parents, our siblings, our friends, our partner, our children, our grandparents, our relatives, our fans, our heros and even our colleagues. And did you ever think where DO YOU FALL IN THIS LIST. You may not notice this difference, but it is quite evitable. Infact we love our car our phone, our house, our properties more than ourselves. Thats the reason we are stressing out ourselves day and night to gain all those things just to be loved and appreciated by all the people we LOVE. Our poor self is screaming from inside to be taken care of , to be felt, to be gentle and to be loved more than others. Thats when we start thinking , that the people we love are not giving us back the love we are giving them, which is again a BIG LIE .
It's YOU , who have to PAUSE, AND LEARN the real meaning of LOVE. Stop loving others and putting others in front of YOU. Even if it is your CHILDREN OR PARENTS. I may sound RUDE AND SELFISH here. Just imagine this here, if you dont know how to accept you as a person and love you, how can you imagine others to LOVE you. And morever your child will learn from yOU, if you are constantly looking for LOVE from external sources, you are teaching them the wrong meaning of life. Im not saying you should not LOVE and ADORE your PARENTS & KIDS, but dont go overboard and scarifice yourself in the process of constantly giving LOVE to others. You will never gain anyrhing out of it, except loneliness and constant complaining attitude that you are not getting back the LOVE.
Lets continue more on LOVE in my next blog.
HAPPY WEEKEND GUYS, START LOVING :-)
