LOVE YOURSELF !!

Alot of people say that, Yes Obviously I love myself..But if you really think about it, how much you mean it ??

Do you love yourself to the extent that, you wont let anyone hurt you? (Mentally or Physically)

Do you love yourself to the extent that you take care of your HEALTH constantly ?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you take care of your FITNESS?

Do ypu love yourself to the extent that you take care of your LOOKS ?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you take care of your DRESSING ?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you take care of your FINANCES ?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you take care of your DREAMS?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you take care of your HAPPINESS?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you take care of your FEELINGS?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you shower yourself with GIFTS ?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you COOK your favourite for YOURSELF ?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you constantly TRY TO improve YOURSELF ?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you keep your room clean and your workplace CLEAN ?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you give yourself a BREAK often to REST and REJUVENATE ?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you take care of YOUR HAIR, SKIN, TEETH AND BODY ?

Do you love yourself to the extent that you focus on POSITIVITY, so that your MIND will be calm and peaceful ?

And the list goes on.. If you clearly observe we do all these things for our loved ones, we advice them, we do for them , we help them, we force them but RARELY we do for OURSELVES !! Which actually should be the REVERSE, As the saying goes " YOU CANNOT POUR FROM AN EMPTY CUP' Fill in your cup first and then share and help others around you. 

Happy Thursday ..

LOVE CAN NEVER BE COMPLETE IF YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF..

You should learn to LOVE yourself, before you fall for anyone. Appreciate your SCARS, FLAWS, WEAKNESS, VULNERABILITIES, FAILURES AND GUILT WITH EMBRACE. When you cant accept yourself, how do you think someone else will accept you and constantly be there to cover up your mistakes or gaps?? Don't you think thats alot of work, as the opposite person will have their own set of issues, which they might be looking for covering up with YOU. Now this becomes a constant work rather than living LIFE as a whole.

Parents play a major role here. Its important to ingrain self-love and confidence since childhood. Help your child to understand that they are more capable and more than sufficient as a whole. Don't give false ideas that a spouse or partner one day will come and complete them, which is total nonsense. Every person as a whole is more than enough and capable enough to create wonders. 

When we totally learn to focus on ourselves, work on ourselves, learn to forgive ourselves, appreciate ourselves, feel beautiful from within and outside, be grateful for our life and take an oath to not let our mind , body , soul NOT TO BE HUMILIATED OR HURT OR JUDGED OR TAKEN INTO CONTROL by anything, or anyone, thats when we feel HAPPY, CONTENT, REAL AND READY FOR LOVE. Now when you feel this way , loving another person will actually make a lot of sense. You relationship will be the most beautiful and happy one, as your happiness or sadness is not completely dependent on the other, rather those emotions can only be shared which is the most beautiful thing of being in LOVE.

Self-love is alot of work, and it takes many days or months or years depending on how pathetic you are on this. We LOVE our parents, our siblings, our friends, our partner, our children, our grandparents, our relatives, our fans, our heros and even our colleagues. And did you ever think where DO YOU FALL IN THIS LIST. You may not notice this difference, but it is quite evitable. Infact we love our car our phone, our house, our properties more than ourselves. Thats the reason we are stressing out ourselves day and night to gain all those things just to be  loved and appreciated by all the people we LOVE. Our poor self is screaming from inside to be taken care of , to be felt, to be gentle and to be loved more than others. Thats when we start thinking , that the people we love are not giving us back the love we are giving them, which is again a BIG LIE . 

It's YOU , who have to PAUSE, AND LEARN the real meaning of LOVE. Stop loving others and putting others in front of YOU. Even if it is your CHILDREN OR PARENTS. I may sound RUDE AND SELFISH here. Just imagine this here, if you dont know how to accept you as a person and love you, how can you imagine others to LOVE you. And morever your child will learn from yOU, if you are constantly looking for LOVE from external sources, you are teaching them the wrong meaning of life. Im not saying you should not LOVE and ADORE your PARENTS & KIDS, but dont go overboard and scarifice yourself in the process of constantly giving LOVE to others. You will never gain anyrhing out of it, except loneliness and constant complaining attitude that you are not getting back the LOVE.

Lets continue more on LOVE in my next blog.

HAPPY WEEKEND GUYS, START LOVING :-) 

ARE YOU IN LOVE OR IN NEED ??

 Love is a beautiful and a divine feeling. It is the base of origin of MANKIND.  It creates wonders , it creates wars too. People die for LOVE, people kill for LOVE. People are born out of LOVE, People live with LOVE. 

Though falling in LOVE is the most BEAUTIFUL and POWERFUL thing in the WORLD, My point here is that, JUST analyse your patterns towards falling in the name of LOVE. IT MAY NOT ALWAYS BE LOVE, IT MAY BE A DEEP UNFILLED VOID IN YOUR LIFE, WHICH IS MAKING YOU FALL IN LOVE, THINKING IT IS LOVE.

If you observe you'll always fall for the person who gives you comfort and all the things that are missing in your life.You will always get attracted towards someone who is giving you something (it can be comfort, confidence, care or compliments or watever). Receiving something that you dont have makes you feel TOP OF THE WORLD, and the person who is giving that feels as GOD to you :-) You feel like giving your everything to that person and revolve around that person as your body and hormones will be in a good place whenever you are getting what you lacked all these years.

But then, why are all breaking up and staying away from the person they've loved with all their HEART ?? Why suddenly they tend to attack each other silently or loudly ? The problem is they were not in TRUE LOVE. Yes, it might be shocking to many, but, yes, we often are looking for the NEED to fill a gap in our life with someone who can give us that. We tend to constantly depend on that person for that NEED. Early years or days will be nice, as they will be giving all that you NEEDED unknowingly. Later suddenly once they have a compatible association with you, they tend to go on with life looking to reach higher limits and grow in life. Suddenly you feel that they dont LIKE YOU or LOVE YOU.. Why ????? Its the same person, whom youve loved and loved and lived and admired? Its because YOU WERE NEVER IN LOVE WITH THAT PERSON , YOU WERE JUST IN NEED. So, once the NEED IS AGAIN LEFT UNPLUGGED YOU START FEELING HELPLESS AND RESTLESS. 

Let's continue this blog tomorrow again with how to really LOVE and learn fill our NEEDS WITH YOURSELF RATHER THAN DEPENDING ON OTHERS FOR YOUR NEEDS..

I guess i'm giving you guys a heart work and a tough analysis on your LOVE LIFE on a MONDAY !!