How well are you teaching LOVE & ROMANCE to your kids ??

 The title seems weird ? If it does, then it's an important topic to be discussed..

Have you ever thought of it? We teach children everything, starting from how to eat , walk, poop, sleep, talk, play, study, manners, habits and many more things in life..But, have you taught them how to LOVE and the importance of ROMANCE in life? You might be saying that they just learn by themselves or they might learn about love , from the way we parents LOVE them. You may also be saying that they learn LOVE, from the love they receive from grandparents , relatives, siblings and teachers.  I agree, they learn various kinds of LOVE in various ways throughout their life. 

What we are talking about here is the LOVE between COUPLES, the ROMANCE between PARENTS, the intimate relationship between MARRIED COUPLES, the lovable and respectable LOVE between elderly couples. The thing here is, we are all taught only how to LOVE our children, how to RESPECT our ELDERS, how to mingle with RELATIVES,  how to live and ADJUST in a totally different family, comprising our self-respect at times, how to SACRIFICE our dreams and desires and dedicate our life to someone or the other, how to EARN money, how to SERVE for family, how to constantly COMPARE yourself to others, how to NEVER be satisfied with what you have and so on..

Thus we all are GREAT PARENTS , but WORST PARTNERS !! Might sound RUDE , but its a FACT !!

You might be wondering, that, how do you teach LOVE & ROMANCE to your children? Have we ever thought of it, in the first place. Just because we never focused on the importance of these two FEELINGS in our life we are clueless on how to teach our kids about them right ? 

And the more pathetic thing here is, as we  PARENTS never teach KIDS about LOVE, they are learning about LOVE & ROMANCE from other sources around them. Like in movies, serials, novels, series, dramas and so on,, as once they hit puberty and the hormonal rush starts in, they start having these feelings of LOVE & ROMANCE and really need to understand what it is through examples around them.

As we PARENTS , are always worried about WORK or TAKING CARE of our CHILDREN , and watching movies in between, they take us a examples and think thats how they too have to LIVE , when they grow big..

Why not we TEACH our kids what is LOVE & ROMANCE exactly? We may not have been taught by our PARENTS, and thats why our RELATIONSHIPS are so messed up and many are struggling to find LOVE and ROMANCE within MARRIAGE too and unable to find them over a period of time, which is leading to INFEDILITY among couples which slowly is leading to DIVORCE !! Is this what we want to showcase to our CHILDREN ? No, right .. So lets teach them better lovable lessons .. 

It's simple,. As a couple, LOVE each other like you used to before kids, keep the ROMANCE alive as your relationship grows, show RESPECT towards each other, FALL for each other again and again, DATE each other often, exchange GIFTS, CARE about each other, WORRY about each other , MISS each other when one is away, let away the EGO and bring in the LOVE, PAMPER each other, HOLD HANDS in PUBLIC, HUG each other daily (in front of kids , its not an offense man, they watch all non-sense on screen) , KISS each other, FORGIVE each other, PRAISE each other and create your own FAMILY TRADITION OF LOVE AND ROMANCE :-) 

Lets ditch the serious , scary , decent , calm, awkward authorative , slavy, commandable , forceful adjusty, kinda relationship status amongst PARENTS , so that the same will not get transfered to KIDS.. Just like GENETIC DISEASES which runs in families, RELATIONSHIP ISSUES may be a family routine running for generations. But the world is changing, the social media is depicting relationships in a different manner, expectations are increasing and individuality and self-respect has taken a major seat thus its important for us as PARENTS to seriously address this issue.