WHO'S LIFE ARE YOU LIVING ??

 We often live the life of our parents or for our children . We even live the life of our grandparents , our relatives, our teachers ,our friends and so on..

On a larger aspect , we live the life of our society , of our culture, of the belief systems of a community and  according to the latest trends.

On a micro aspect we live the life of our admirers, we live the life of celebrities,  we live the life of our leaders, we live the life of our apartment group rules, and we tend to live the life of the infinite groups we are a part of..

On a deeper aspect we are wired to appear for the exam called "A SUCCESSFUL AND A HAPPY LIFE " which was printed ages ago and being taught to us since childhood. The results of the exams vary, depending on how well you've followed when you were a child and how soon you've implemented practicing all that is in the LIFE BOOK since ADULTHOOD.  

And you know what,  the examiners or the judges of the exam are the same who have followed and written the same exam , irrespective of how well they have performed in their LIFE EXAM, they start ANALYSING AND JUDGING your RESULTS of SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS. How pathetic is that ....

What is SUCCESS?? what is Happiness ?? 

Is it  xeroxing  your PARENTS desires ?

Is it scanning your TEACHERS lessons?

Is it repeating your learnt lessons to your CHILDREN ?

Is it raising the flag of your SURNAME high in the sky?

Is it satisfying your RELATIVES constantly ?

OR 

Is it living perfectly according to the SOCIETAL norms?

Is it following our CULTURE (good or bad) blindly ?

Is it going with HERD in our community ?

Is it staying upto date with the latest TRENDS ?

OR 

Is it imitating the people we constantly ADMIRE?

Is it trying out the lifestyle of our CELEBRITIES ?

Is it replicating our LEADERS ?

Is it following the rules of the infinite WATSAPP groups? 

If you observe all the above questions clearly , YOU are missing there..What is your desire? What are your lessons? what did you learn from your children? Are you, YOU , without your surname ?? How often are you doing things that satisfy YOU solely? Is the so called SOCIETY perfect , to question your perfectionism? How does culture contribute to your success and happiness, unless you work hard your whole life ? What if the herd you are following is not HAPPY & SUCCESSFUL ? What is YOUR trend ?

Do the people you admire and imitate , even know you or even helped you to reach your success or happiness ? What is the lifestyle YOU adopt ? Are YOU a leader yourself ? What are YOUR rules? 

            

Following and learning and adapting and growing , using the above support systems may be necessary for sure, for being a part of the society we live in, but DON'T let them bombard you or cover you, or over lap you or drown you or suppress you or hurt you or humiliate you or bully you or disempower you or pull down your confidence and grab your IDENTITY and mask your ORIGINALITY ..

Remember all those rules and lessons were set by ONE  THOUGHTFUL person at one point of time and others started following them blindly. Why not YOU be that ONE person and create a NEW SET of RULES & LESSONS atleast for yourself, if not for the SOCIETY ..Create your own definition of SUCCESS & HAPPINESS , as there is no specific definition of both .. For someone success is a loving relationship , for someone success is happiness , for a child success is getting that toy, for someone happiness is success, for someone service is happiness, for someone ruling is success and the list goes on..

So, BREATHE and choose and live life according to your OWN TERMS..

It is OK , ALL IS WELL :-)

 We Humans are highly INTELLECTUAL beings, and are always stressful or worried or anxious or just overthinking of something or the other. Though it is very crucial for our well-being to always think about our FUTURE, it is also IMPORTANT, to know that, IT'S OK to think of NOTHING, every now and then.

Here is  a check list of things in life, which we either keep complaining or boasting about. The success recipe of anything in LIFE, be it FOOD or RELATIONSHIPS or MONEY or CAREER is being BALANCED and experiencing all the flavours and all the aspects of life throughout the JOURNEY of LIFE.

It's OK to commit MISTAKES.

It's OK to have FUN.

It's OK to WORK HARD.

It's OK to LAUGH OUT LOUD(LOL).

It's Ok to CRY.

It's OK to be HAPPY.

It's OK to be SAD.

It's OK to LOVE.

It's OK to BREAK UP.

It's OK to MARRY.

It's OK to stay SINGLE.

It's Ok to have KIDS.

It's OK to NOT have KIDS.

It's OK to COOK.

It's OK to ORDER FOOD ONLINE.

It's OK to be an EXTROVERT.

It's OK to be an INTROVERT.

It's OK to be GOOD at STUDIES.

It's OK to be BAD at STUDIES.

It's OK to be HEALTHY.

It's OK to be SICK.

It's OK to be RICH.

It's OK to be POOR.

It's OK to be SUCCESSFUL.

It's OK to be a FAILURE.

It's OK to be a CELEBRITY.

It's OK to be a COMMON MAN.

The thing which is NOT OK, is, Don’t BEAT yourself up nor don’t be ARROGANT as, NOTHING is permanent. At the end of the DAY, all it matters is, whether you are JOYFUL, KIND, TRUTHFUL, EMPATHETIC AND GRATEFUL to everything and everyone in YOUR LIFE.