ARE YOU IN LOVE OR IN NEED ??

 Love is a beautiful and a divine feeling. It is the base of origin of MANKIND.  It creates wonders , it creates wars too. People die for LOVE, people kill for LOVE. People are born out of LOVE, People live with LOVE. 

Though falling in LOVE is the most BEAUTIFUL and POWERFUL thing in the WORLD, My point here is that, JUST analyse your patterns towards falling in the name of LOVE. IT MAY NOT ALWAYS BE LOVE, IT MAY BE A DEEP UNFILLED VOID IN YOUR LIFE, WHICH IS MAKING YOU FALL IN LOVE, THINKING IT IS LOVE.

If you observe you'll always fall for the person who gives you comfort and all the things that are missing in your life.You will always get attracted towards someone who is giving you something (it can be comfort, confidence, care or compliments or watever). Receiving something that you dont have makes you feel TOP OF THE WORLD, and the person who is giving that feels as GOD to you :-) You feel like giving your everything to that person and revolve around that person as your body and hormones will be in a good place whenever you are getting what you lacked all these years.

But then, why are all breaking up and staying away from the person they've loved with all their HEART ?? Why suddenly they tend to attack each other silently or loudly ? The problem is they were not in TRUE LOVE. Yes, it might be shocking to many, but, yes, we often are looking for the NEED to fill a gap in our life with someone who can give us that. We tend to constantly depend on that person for that NEED. Early years or days will be nice, as they will be giving all that you NEEDED unknowingly. Later suddenly once they have a compatible association with you, they tend to go on with life looking to reach higher limits and grow in life. Suddenly you feel that they dont LIKE YOU or LOVE YOU.. Why ????? Its the same person, whom youve loved and loved and lived and admired? Its because YOU WERE NEVER IN LOVE WITH THAT PERSON , YOU WERE JUST IN NEED. So, once the NEED IS AGAIN LEFT UNPLUGGED YOU START FEELING HELPLESS AND RESTLESS. 

Let's continue this blog tomorrow again with how to really LOVE and learn fill our NEEDS WITH YOURSELF RATHER THAN DEPENDING ON OTHERS FOR YOUR NEEDS..

I guess i'm giving you guys a heart work and a tough analysis on your LOVE LIFE on a MONDAY !!

How well are you teaching LOVE & ROMANCE to your kids ??

 The title seems weird ? If it does, then it's an important topic to be discussed..

Have you ever thought of it? We teach children everything, starting from how to eat , walk, poop, sleep, talk, play, study, manners, habits and many more things in life..But, have you taught them how to LOVE and the importance of ROMANCE in life? You might be saying that they just learn by themselves or they might learn about love , from the way we parents LOVE them. You may also be saying that they learn LOVE, from the love they receive from grandparents , relatives, siblings and teachers.  I agree, they learn various kinds of LOVE in various ways throughout their life. 

What we are talking about here is the LOVE between COUPLES, the ROMANCE between PARENTS, the intimate relationship between MARRIED COUPLES, the lovable and respectable LOVE between elderly couples. The thing here is, we are all taught only how to LOVE our children, how to RESPECT our ELDERS, how to mingle with RELATIVES,  how to live and ADJUST in a totally different family, comprising our self-respect at times, how to SACRIFICE our dreams and desires and dedicate our life to someone or the other, how to EARN money, how to SERVE for family, how to constantly COMPARE yourself to others, how to NEVER be satisfied with what you have and so on..

Thus we all are GREAT PARENTS , but WORST PARTNERS !! Might sound RUDE , but its a FACT !!

You might be wondering, that, how do you teach LOVE & ROMANCE to your children? Have we ever thought of it, in the first place. Just because we never focused on the importance of these two FEELINGS in our life we are clueless on how to teach our kids about them right ? 

And the more pathetic thing here is, as we  PARENTS never teach KIDS about LOVE, they are learning about LOVE & ROMANCE from other sources around them. Like in movies, serials, novels, series, dramas and so on,, as once they hit puberty and the hormonal rush starts in, they start having these feelings of LOVE & ROMANCE and really need to understand what it is through examples around them.

As we PARENTS , are always worried about WORK or TAKING CARE of our CHILDREN , and watching movies in between, they take us a examples and think thats how they too have to LIVE , when they grow big..

Why not we TEACH our kids what is LOVE & ROMANCE exactly? We may not have been taught by our PARENTS, and thats why our RELATIONSHIPS are so messed up and many are struggling to find LOVE and ROMANCE within MARRIAGE too and unable to find them over a period of time, which is leading to INFEDILITY among couples which slowly is leading to DIVORCE !! Is this what we want to showcase to our CHILDREN ? No, right .. So lets teach them better lovable lessons .. 

It's simple,. As a couple, LOVE each other like you used to before kids, keep the ROMANCE alive as your relationship grows, show RESPECT towards each other, FALL for each other again and again, DATE each other often, exchange GIFTS, CARE about each other, WORRY about each other , MISS each other when one is away, let away the EGO and bring in the LOVE, PAMPER each other, HOLD HANDS in PUBLIC, HUG each other daily (in front of kids , its not an offense man, they watch all non-sense on screen) , KISS each other, FORGIVE each other, PRAISE each other and create your own FAMILY TRADITION OF LOVE AND ROMANCE :-) 

Lets ditch the serious , scary , decent , calm, awkward authorative , slavy, commandable , forceful adjusty, kinda relationship status amongst PARENTS , so that the same will not get transfered to KIDS.. Just like GENETIC DISEASES which runs in families, RELATIONSHIP ISSUES may be a family routine running for generations. But the world is changing, the social media is depicting relationships in a different manner, expectations are increasing and individuality and self-respect has taken a major seat thus its important for us as PARENTS to seriously address this issue.