For WHAT do you PRAISE your children ?

In continuation with our previous post, HOW OFTEN DO YOU PRAISE YOUR CHILDREN, let's look more deeper on this topic, such as,  for what all different reasons you PRAISE your KIDS. You may be wondering , its obvious that we do PRAISE our kids, when they come first in class, when they hit that sixer, or when they bring home a medal or a cup, or when they achieve something unique in extracurricular activities or when they perform best on stage or when your whole family praises them or when their Teacher praises them..

But, don’t you think there are more reasons to PRAISE them? Don't you think kids need constant assurance and applause? Don't you remember how excited and motivated they were when you praised your little infant , on his/her first steps or first words? Don't you think that they need your approval when no one recognises their effort or hardworking nature? Don't you think children perform better only when PARENTS supports them emotionally ? Don’t you think your ONE  word of APPRECIATION is worth MILLIONS to your KIDS? 

When was the last time you’ve  PRAISED your kid for NO REASON? Have you ever CLAPPED for your growing kids KIND DEEDS? Have you ever APPRECIATED how well your child manages her TASKS? Have you ever said BEAUTIFUL to your little daughter often ? Have you ever COMPLIMENTED about you son's hairstlye ? Have you ever CONGRATULATED you child for just PARTICIPATING ? Have you CELEBRATED his/her overcoming through TOUGH TIMES? Have you MAGNIFIED their softskills like, how KIND they are, how OBEDIENT they are, how TRUTHFUL they are, how HARDWORKING they are or how ACTIVE they are or how HELPFUL they are ? Have you THANKED them for simple tasks they’ve done for you? Have you ever GLORIFIED  their daily growth and minor achievements ? 

The importance of this whole write up on the importance of PRAISE and for what you PRAISE your kids melts down to building up their EMOTIONAL STRENGTH, when they grow into ADULTS. What happens when you constantly PRAISE your kids only for their big and higher achievements, a kind LOW-SELF-ESTEEM develops in them, which is surprising, as you think as a  PARENT you are constantly pushing your children to work harder and harder. Though they may achieve success on this pattern of upbringing , they may be undergoing alot of APPROVAL DIFFICULTIES in their mind. They will be constantly hustling with a deep sense of DISSATISFACTION and awaiting for applause from everyone around them. As they are not taught that being kind, being happy, being regular, being truthful, being lovable, being helpful are all  worth of appreciation!! 

They are only taught that material achievements are worth of PRAISE , thus ultimately they keep struggling and looking out for appreciation from all around. This may even lead to making them fall for wrong people, who may not be right for them, but just with the fact of the kind of superficial PRAISES they receive from a person  in the beginning make them feel that, HE/SHE is the ONE for them and lives a life constantly trying to IMPRESS them, all because they were devoid of APPRECIATION from their PARENTS during their CHILDHOOD. I guess we all, as PARENTS do not want our kids to compromise in their life, right? SO, from now onwards, let's keep praising them for simple simple things and let's keep appreciating them and make them CONFIDENT AND SELF-SUFFICIENT INDIVIDUALS.

How often do YOU, PARENT YOURSELF ??

We Humans are constantly evolving, and we need constant motivation to be a better person each and everyday. As a child we receive  a lot of support and constant teachings from Parents, Teachers, Coaches and Seniors. But, what about when we grow up and become an ADULT ?? From where are we going to receive all the motivation from?? 

There may be multiple options  of getting the required motivation we require constantly, throughout life. Be it through BOOKS, PODCASTS, MENTORS, MOVIES or GURUS, we constantly, try to learn something that we are not well aware or well versed with. Few smart people even tend to hire life coach or a permanent mentor from whom they constantly gain support and motivation. But, have you ever thought that YOU actually can PARENT yourself regularly throughout YOUR life. 

When we were kids, we were parented by our Parents or Grand-parents. Once we grow up, We master the ART of Parenting our kids.  As Humans , we are highly INTELLECTUAL and we can easily survive well, but just imagine how SYSTEMATIC and how DISCIPLINED your life was when you were a CHILD. It was because you had the GUIDANCE and support from your PARENTS. 

If YOU want a better, a happier, a comfortable and a successful life YOU gotta learn the ART of SELF-PARENTING !! Yes, try to be a PARENT to YOURSELF. No one understands YOU, better than YOU. No one knows YOUR STRUGGLES. No one can help in achieving YOUR AIMS & DESIRES in life. No one really can understand whats happening in YOUR MIND. Thus, start wearing THE cap of a PARENT to YOURSELF. 

Console YOURSELF when in pain and AGONY. Pamper yourself when you’re TIRED. Be easy on yourself when something goes CRAZY, just like your Parents would do, when you were a kid. Correct yourself when you are going on the WRONG PATH. Control yourself from ADDICTIONS, just like you would do to YOUR KIDS. Cheer for yourself when you WIN something BIG or SMALL . Reward or Treat yourself with lots of Love and Affection, just the way your parents and grandparents would do for YOU. 

Wipe your own Tears and Stand Bold again, and say to YOURSELF that it is not the end of the WORLD. Push yourself HARDER even if you don't like , just the way your tough DAD used to be. Control yourself from binge-spending or binge-eating or binge-watching Habits, for, you would never encourage YOUR CHILDREN to do those things. Eat Nutritious and Healthy food 🥘 just like  your MOM was constantly worried ONLY about your EATING HABITS. Pray to GOD or believe in a supreme power, just the way you were taught in childhood. 

Believe in YOURSELF and Love YOURSELF like your PARENTS did. Keep boasting about YOURSELF, just like your parents always did and are still doing, Keep saying to yourself , that YOU are the BEST and the cutest BEING in the WORLD, just the way your MOM FEELS.

Hope you all will start SELF-PARENTING yourself from today onwards. It's just the lack of EMPATHY and KINDNESS and GUIDANCE and  a SECURE feeling that we all are missing when we become ADULTS, and start playing in the real WORLD land create a MESS out of it.  By the time, we start realising, how could we have done better, most of our lifetime is gone. So, be GENEROUS and SUPPORTIVE  to YOURSELF,  even after you become a PARENT or even a GRANDPARENT.